A month later we got some great news! Hungary became part of the Visa Waiver Program, which meant I was able to travel to the United States without a travel Visa. We just couldn’t believe it! I was sitting in my tiny room I rented in Milan thinking ‘this is it! It’s a sign! The universe is telling us that we are supposed to be together.’ We quickly bought airplane tickets, I packed my whole life into two suitcases, and on November 17th, 2008 I arrived in Seattle.
As a perfect start to our new life, we spent a couple of days in this beautiful city. Adam was touring me around and I was so overwhelmed with this new experience. I have never traveled this far from my home and everything felt so different. But honestly nothing mattered more than that after 5 months of long distance relationship, we were finally together.
On our first night, in the hotel room Adam proposed again, but this time with a beautiful engagement ring.
A few days later Adam took me to his hometown, Kennewick, where he rented an empty apartment so we can start our life together. Makes me smile to think back when we use to have dinner on the floor, like a picnic because we didn’t even have a table. We were so happy and thankful to finally be together. Nothing else mattered!
But Adam and I quickly had to realize that we wouldn’t have too much time to enjoy our engagement, plan the wedding, and settle down. We had to get married right away, otherwise 3 months later I would have had to go back to Europe.
On December 11th, Adam left for work in the morning and I started to get ready in our home. I went to a hair salon and remember telling the hairdresser (with my horrible English, lol) that I’m getting married today. I think Adam got ready at his work, can’t remember exactly.
Before our license signing appointment, we wanted to have a romantic first look. That way we can get to the courthouse together. Adam was waiting for me in Richland, by the Columbia River. He looked really handsome, happy and adorably nervous. It was freezing cold, middle of winter, but all I can remember how excited and in love both of us where.
We had a couple of quick pictures taken at the park and with Adam’s old Chevelle. As you can see below I have completely destroyed these photos by putting over a ton of filter, textures, flowery decorations, blur, text… you name it. Apparently photoshop was very cool in 2008. Lol, Makes me want to cry now! The sepia toned image with red roses is just a cherry on the top.
Even 9 years later I can still remember the excitement I felt when we walked in the courthouse, and went through the security. Adam’s family and our witnesses where the only guests there. I was wearing a very minimal, champagne color dress with a short sleeve jacket vest, that we’ve picked out with my mom back in Hungary. It had to be small and short, so everything can fit into my luggage. But I was happy with it, because I got to have this special experience with my mom.
The ceremony was short and simple. We had our vows given to us the day before, so I could translate them and practice. Gosh, we didn’t even think about writing our own.
The judge said a few words about marriage, then it was our turn to repeat the vows. It went horrible on my end, let me tell you. (I think the magistrate thought this can not be a real. These guys can’t even communicate with each other. :)) We put the rings on our fingers and walked to the counter to sign the marriage license.
After a couple of group pictures Adam and I went to a really nice restaurant in Richland. Just the two of us, freshly married couple having dinner. How adorable! At least I hope that’s what the waitress thought when she sign our receipt with a “Congratulation! *smiley face* “
By the time we where done, a couple of Adam’s friends, -who I had never met- gathered in his parent’s house to celebrate, and meet me. (Most of them were already married, some of them had kids too, which was really unusual to me, since in Europe nobody tied the knot this young.)
We had Costco cake and a bottle of champagne. My new in-laws warmly welcomed me into their home and family, plus I met a bunch of new people.
Later that night I was finally able to call my parent on Skype to share the great news. It was really early in the morning for them. I remember seeing their sleepy faces and how excited and happy they were for me and for my new husband, my new life. Unconditionally, selflessly happy, not thinking how far I actually was.
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Although I was born in Serbia, graduated in Italy and have been living overseas for 14+ years, I'm very proud of my Hungarian heritage.
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